Monday, January 12, 2015

The Last Post: Love

After today, I'm going to be moving this blog over to RubberbandSlingshot.

And while there's some exhilaration in that step, a sense of the pieces coming together, there's also loss. This is, after all, the place where I first publicly identified myself as an actor and honestly spoke of following the dream. For five years, I've documented the good (SXSW, True Grit, Cell) and the bad (broken ankle, missed opportunities).

The move isn't an abandonment of the art.
It's a realization that the art doesn't live in a vacuum.

The work I do as a writer informs it. The work I do as an author draws from the same well. It's just taken me a bit longer than some to figure out that I can't neatly compartmentalize dreams and work. Done well, they coexist.

Here's an example.

I read an article in the NYTimes this morning that spoke about love--specifically the ability to will it into being:
"I’ve begun to think love is a more pliable thing than we make it out to be. Arthur Aron’s study taught me that it’s possible — simple, even — to generate trust and intimacy, the feelings love needs to thrive." 
I know this is true.

When you're an actor in a committed relationship, love scenes can feel complicated. For my first, I was conflicted. If I feel love in the moment, am I being disloyal to my relationship?

An acting friend gave me really good advice. He told me in the moment, I should feel it. That all the time I've committed to the craft, all the time away from my partner, all the work is wasted if I half-ass my way through the scene. The ability to do this, to 'feel it' in the moment requires something very similar to Aron's study. Vulnerability, trust, intimacy, space.

As I think this over, I think of the acting partners who have given me this gift. I think of the relationships grown from this space. I think of the love that the craft has brought into my life, and I am so very grateful.

Last, I think that tonight I'm going to pull out Aron's 36 questions and start the exploration at home--spend some time learning about the man I've loved for more than half my life.

Because when it's time to integrate your life's dreams, there's really no time like now.
xoxo


To keep up with Aimee--the actor, the author and the writer--visit RubberbandSlingshot.


3 comments:


  1. Very well written and informative article, thank you :-)
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    Go git'm, girl. You're incredible.
    See you Upstairs...
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  3. Wow. You're another utterly gorgeous one... yet, puh-leeze dont let that be your literal downfall: this lifelong demise is only a test set-up by the Trinity whom alla of U.S. gotta answer to. I would reeeeelly love to see you Upstairs, yet, free-will impedes your journey: God doesnt have anythn to say with free-will, He made U.S. free to do His will or reject it. If I haven't scared you enuff, follow us down the page. This'll help you see the unFOURseen...

    "This finite existence is only a test, son," God Almighty sed to me in my coma. "Beyond thy earthly tempest is where you'll find corpulent eloquence" (paraphrased). Lemme tella youse without d'New Joisey accent...

    I actually saw Seventh-Heaven when we died: you couldn't GET any moe curly, 3stooges, extravagantly-surplus-lush Upstairs when my beautifull, brilliant, bombastic girl passed-away at 17.

    Find-out where we went on our journey far, far away like the symbiotically, synonyMOUSEs which creep across thy brain bringing U.S. together done in FOUR, sardonic satires.

    "Those who are wise will shine as brightly as the expanse of the Heavens, and those who have instructed many in uprightousness as bright as stars for all eternity" -Daniel 12:3

    Here's also what the prolific, exquisite GODy sed: 'the more you shall honor Me, the more I shall bless you' -the Infant Jesus of Prague.

    Go git'm, girl. You're incredible.
    See you Upstairs...
    I won't be joining'm in the nasty Abyss where Isis prowls
    eklektikmantra.blogspot.com

    -YOUTHwitheTRUTH
    -------------------------------
    PS Need some uncommon, unique, uncivilized names? Lemme gonna gitcha started:

    Oak Woods, Athena Noble, Autumn Rose, Faith Bishop, Dolly Martin, Willow Rhodes, Cocoa Major, China Stone, Bullwark Burnhart, Magnus Wilde, Kardiak Arrest, Will Wright, Goldy Silvers, Sophie Sharp, Gloria Hood, Violet Snow, Lizzy Roach, BoxxaRoxx, Aunty Dotey, Romero Stark, Zachariah Neptoon, Turkey Yankee, Mercurio Morrissey, Fritz & Felix Yates (<-- brothers, Czech republic), Mortimer Victor, Isabella Kennedy, Mercedes Silverstein, Redding Rust...

    God blessa youse
    -Fr. Sarducci, ol SNL

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